Timing is everything…

'Let go and trust the universe'
‘Let go and trust the universe’

A good friend once told me, ‘everything is about timing’. If the universe wants things to happen, they will happen, at the right time.’ But how can we achieve this ‘timing’? Do we just sit and wait around until something happens? Or will there be a ‘light bulb’ moment, a divine sign, that would tell us, ‘it’s time?’

Some people have been blessed to have been at the right place at the right time. Rick Springfield once said, ‘If the timing’s right, and the Gods are with you, something special happens.’ I think that everyone has experienced this at some point in their lives- meeting your true love, or whether dropping the kids off to school, catching a public transport, or attending an interview-  everything, is about timing. If you’re late even for a few minutes, your entire day is suddenly misaligned and thrown into chaos….

If timing is not in your favour, just remember that in the grand scheme of things, everything happens for a reason. Perhaps, we just need to be optimistic about the circumstance. Every cloud has a silver lining. The important thing is that we live our lives in the best possible way we can.

Perhaps, we also must not settle for things or situations just because we think they’re the best we can get. Perhaps we need to learn to live in the moment and just grab every opportunity to learn something new . We sometimes have the tendency to let our hearts override our heads so let’s try not to let our emotions overtake our common sense. I know, it’s easier said than done, but we can try…..

Indeed, everything happens for a reason – and maybe the reason for this will become clearer to us in the future. And maybe, one day…..you never know. Perhaps in another life time, things will fall into place, when the timing is right.

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Love means never having to say you’re sorry….or should you?

KeyOctober 13, 2015…. For (still) the lack of appetite (even the MSG in my Chinese take away tasted bland today 😦 ), I am uninspired to write about food, so let’s just become hopeless romantics for this afternoon and talk about love, shall we?

Where do I begin? Erich Segal once wrote, ‘ Love means never having to say you’re sorry…’, but what does this really mean? Is this the ‘get-out-of-jail free card’ that entitles anyone of any wrong doing and not being or saying sorry for it ? Or does it mean that if you truly love someone and they love you back, that many things go without needing to be said, because you would never truly mean to hurt that other person – and if you did somehow hurt them, of course you are sorry, but it is unspoken and it is understood?

In my very honest opinion, unless you are Mother Theresa or the Dalai Lama, this phrase is somehow unacceptable at best, and plain contradictory to the truth about loving relationships, at worst. It takes a ginormous spiritual evolution to be capable of this emotion. If I know that I have done something wrong, I would like to say ‘sorry’, because it is just the right thing to do. Love, to me is about communicating, whether good or bad. You just need to know that you should be ‘sensitive’ when it’s bad, so as not to hurt your loved one even more…..

‘When love ceases to exist, so does the desire to act accordingly.’

I believe that there is nothing more gracious and sweet and romantic than saying sorry to the person that you love the most (did I mention that it’s also very ‘sexy’? you have to be very sincere with your apology though, otherwise, it defeats the purpose :)……it irons out any misunderstandings and is an amicable way of reconciling your differences. There is no point being in emotional deficit with one another, it is about showing your emotional maturity. We can learn so much about humility when we learn to hear, feel, and understand the huge impact that was made at that moment of saying ‘you’re sorry’ , so show that part of you and see it through…

If someone loves you enough, then you probably don’t need to say you’re sorry, and if you love them, you should want to apologise if you’ve hurt them. Because eventually, if you keep hurting them, and never apologising, they may stop loving you.

And if you truly love someone , you will try to avoid saying or doing anything to hurt them, in the first instance. Learn from your mistakes, don’t do the same thing over and over again. Don’t hide anything from your partner, because if you’re hiding it, then you should not be doing it. Be open to your loved one, and be open about your loved one, because one day,  you’d be hoping that you’d be together, perhaps forever (meron bang ‘forever’????) , and there’s very little to say you are sorry for…….<3 ❤ ❤

Hard to Say I’m sorry

To blog or not to blog……

October 12, 2015…..

Accidentally browsed through the ‘free’ wordpress.com site!  Why not? It got me at ‘free’. Ha ha! From what I have seen (and don’t shoot the messenger), people who write blogs are usually those that are either recuperating or about to die :{ … Hopefully, I’m just recuperating, and not the alternative- I am yet to tick boxes off my bucket list!

Several days of perpendicularly lying in bed ( I tell you what, ain’t easy, my entire derriere is mangled, I cannot wait to put them back in their place, lol!), all these pain killers and antibiotics slowly start to make you feel delusional (not to mention that I believe my liver has since grown twice in size!). I thought this morning I was hearing voices- turns out, I was just dreaming- within my dream- you know, just like that movie that Leo Di Caprio made a box office of (watchamacullit? Oh yes! ‘The Titanic’! just kidding, I know the title, it was ” Inception”  🙂 …

‘Nau-cited’ (nauseus + excited), stumbling into this site somehow made me get up , head downstairs, retrieve my laptop, slowly make my way up again and start typing gibberish stuff which I’m sure will make more sense to me the following day 🙂 Just really excited that I am able to write about things (sensible or not), this is such a great remedy….way, way ,better than my usual therapy (of impulse buying!)

Hoping tomorrow, I can write about love or food, or both? Depends on the mood I’ll be in, or the side effects of medication…….