October 13, 2015…. For (still) the lack of appetite (even the MSG in my Chinese take away tasted bland today 😦 ), I am uninspired to write about food, so let’s just become hopeless romantics for this afternoon and talk about love, shall we?
Where do I begin? Erich Segal once wrote, ‘ Love means never having to say you’re sorry…’, but what does this really mean? Is this the ‘get-out-of-jail free card’ that entitles anyone of any wrong doing and not being or saying sorry for it ? Or does it mean that if you truly love someone and they love you back, that many things go without needing to be said, because you would never truly mean to hurt that other person – and if you did somehow hurt them, of course you are sorry, but it is unspoken and it is understood?
In my very honest opinion, unless you are Mother Theresa or the Dalai Lama, this phrase is somehow unacceptable at best, and plain contradictory to the truth about loving relationships, at worst. It takes a ginormous spiritual evolution to be capable of this emotion. If I know that I have done something wrong, I would like to say ‘sorry’, because it is just the right thing to do. Love, to me is about communicating, whether good or bad. You just need to know that you should be ‘sensitive’ when it’s bad, so as not to hurt your loved one even more…..
‘When love ceases to exist, so does the desire to act accordingly.’
I believe that there is nothing more gracious and sweet and romantic than saying sorry to the person that you love the most (did I mention that it’s also very ‘sexy’? you have to be very sincere with your apology though, otherwise, it defeats the purpose :)……it irons out any misunderstandings and is an amicable way of reconciling your differences. There is no point being in emotional deficit with one another, it is about showing your emotional maturity. We can learn so much about humility when we learn to hear, feel, and understand the huge impact that was made at that moment of saying ‘you’re sorry’ , so show that part of you and see it through…
If someone loves you enough, then you probably don’t need to say you’re sorry, and if you love them, you should want to apologise if you’ve hurt them. Because eventually, if you keep hurting them, and never apologising, they may stop loving you.
And if you truly love someone , you will try to avoid saying or doing anything to hurt them, in the first instance. Learn from your mistakes, don’t do the same thing over and over again. Don’t hide anything from your partner, because if you’re hiding it, then you should not be doing it. Be open to your loved one, and be open about your loved one, because one day, you’d be hoping that you’d be together, perhaps forever (meron bang ‘forever’????) , and there’s very little to say you are sorry for…….<3 ❤ ❤